Saying "I love you" for the first time is a huge deal. Best of luck, may God always guide you. Our relationship is almost 2 years and he started showing signs that he doesn’t love me anymore and i think that there is a lot of things that’s bothering him i can say that he changed a lot when it comes to all the aspect of our relationship. “If I have to hear you going on about how your feelings aren’t being validated one more time…” while rolling his eyes, if not visibly to my face it’s only because he insists on hanging up the phone. For many years I was asking myself the same question “Does he love me back”. So then 10 months after my daughter left, my husband seeks out this 23 year old young lady (3 yrs younger than our daughter). To him that was proof I was cheating. I have never been married in my life, I was arranged for him by both parents. Thank you to everyone who has shared your experience. Not only does he not love you anymore, but he’s also probably already over you . We sit in too different rooms. And you’re doing most of the work because he probably only doesn’t care anymore. I even told his boss that he must have been mistaken because my husband was meeting with some inspectors. In the blink of an eye, I went from “then” to “Red Light.”. and 2. keeps half naked pictures of her for the kids?! I am completely devastated. I am with a passive aggressive totally oblivious, racist man…. The discussion is an art, however easily it could come for you. I’ve been with someone for 5 yrs within the first 3 months it came to my attention he was still seeing his ex 6mnths down the road I find out he impregnates us both he went back and forth between us for 2yrs I tried to look past everything that happened we’ve tried living together it always ends up in fighting and him leaving I find it difficult being around the child he had with the ex he’s always coming back begging to be with me saying how much he loves me well most recently it’s been 3 months since he’s had his apt and I notice he does things there tht he never did living with me and his reason is always bc of me and my bs he wasn’t able to live with me long enough to buy curtains or stock up in living essentials he’s been putting pictures in frames of himself his kids his father and I noticed not one of me I expressed how bad it made me feel and eventually he put one of the both of us together last week he sent me a text of more photos he framed but none of me again I expressed how rejected I feel and he threw in my face all he had done for me on Valentine’s Day and pretty much how I ruin any chance of us being together I never responded back to the text and haven’t heard from him unless it’s regarding our daughter. Like a true gentleman… he would not allow it knowing that he was done. I thought that he loved this and all the other parts. 2. Human is to error. I hear your pain, and I wish I had magic words to make things better. I keep trying to talk to him about our relationship but he doesn’t say anything that really makes any sense. It seemed my husband got what he deserved for being a cheater and not thinking of himself or me to at least use protection. At one point only 6 years ago did he stop treating me amazing…he treated me so good that other women commented on how lucky I was (which I agreed and didn’t take for granted) he turned 40 and everything because only about him – help!!! And didn’t talk to me for two whole weeks. He has proposed but I feel like he did it only because its what I needed him to do. And I don’t want to do any of this anymore. I agreed in the beginning of the relationship to cut ties with people I had relations with in the past and that seemed reasonable, I did and had no problem. Grieving, healing, and starting over is a process. He outlines the biblical view of marriage and instructs readers on: Drawing healthy boundaries. I’m sorry you’re going through this, and looking for signs he doesn’t love you. It’s also setting your boyfriend or husband up to fail. I do however feel like we live very seperate lives. Start working on yourself please, you need to think more highly of yourself….how dare he treat you this way, you deserve better. He frightens me inside my soul and I’ve never truly been afraid of anything in my life until him. I don't have any good excuse why.. Before this relationship i wasnt clingy , or needy , but my partner was emotionally abusive and controlling . I messed up. I know he was having some financial issues. He doesn’t support your passions, your career or your dreams. But the absolutely worst part is I took him back.. it months too but I did but nke I’m done !! And now they’ve been together for 3 months as well. So i sent a long text since he is always on his phone for him to tell me he didnt even read it. We had a phone relationship for almost 5 months before meeting and when we finally did it was like pure magic. Trusting a man to fill your soul – or to “complete you” is setting yourself up for disappointment. last night he said i should move out cos me and his mom and sis will never get along ever. How can saying I love you loses it value and meaning when your boyfriend says it. We have been doing pretty good for the most part and have been able to have discussions about how we feel and act silly work it out. Sounds like you have nostalgia, remembering his good in the past. Love is about something letting someone go because you love them enough to see your not the right person for them. Just yesterday we decided to give our relationship one more week. However, I have a tubal pregnancy… and I called him and asked if he could stop by so I could tell him in person. It's just that there aren't the gestures, experiences, and situations available for him to really show it. I felt bored and felt alone ,I cried and cried and cried..I search on how to overcome my boredom and loneliness and I read on the related searches the tips to know if he doesn’t love you so I try to open and read it and I just wanted to say thank you for the tips given.Yes I need to be loved and to loved,but honestly the reason I am crying and felt sad is because one of the reason that my boyfriend is far from me,let’s say we are far from each other. He says he loves you so much he can’t stand to share you with other people. This lack of missing you may be another of the signals your husband doesn’t love you. In the last week he reminded me twice about that fight months ago and how we decided to be friends. I thought they needed the structure, because their dad never had anything to do with them once we divorced. So, I just had to get this out there. I sit in silence with him. Never. Do you have any advice for me? I would do anything to prove my love if I thought I was going to loose them. He knows it hurts me and I can’t change him. I don’t usually cry. I am more concern now on your relationshop with your husband, as its not pretty much clearly stated whether you wanna comtinue with divorce or both of you quite happy with the status quo. So, we did. I’m writing here because after about half a year I’m still thinking about him a lot and missing him badly. “If I say it now, it will be a lie.” Unfortunately, in some cases, he can’t say it because he doesn’t love you anymore. Once you find peace within yourself . I met him again same thing we sat and talked. They’ll also improve your relationship! One day it’s going to catch me. He’s like my bestfreind and I don’t want to lose him . Maybe your husband tells you lies about where he’s spending his time, money, energy. No sex, just hold me, show me love. '” I tend to overthink things when I go and get something and when I actually find it he seems genuinely surprised… I’ve brought this up to him before but he tells me, “You know I think you’re intelligent.” But he doesn’t act that way. If we are in the same room, its no more then 15-30 mins. This isn’t just my husband and I loving in different ways, it’s clear he doesn’t love me. His personality is kind of cold and aloof- he was always present but not really p, if that makes sense – like a robot in many ways. He tells me all the time if I am not Happy to just leave. He is not a father. Although in the past, he has cheated and had children and affairs with other women but each and every time I have forgiven him. I am hurt still but more confused than anything. It’s painful and heartbreaking to even consider the idea that your boyfriend or husband isn’t in love with you anymore. This sign he doesn’t love you can be complicated for women – like me – who are insecure. He literally will not do anything I ask of him anymore. Then on the weekends he plays golf for 4 hours, watches tennis, golf, football, etc and then on Sunday plays tennis for 2 hours.They are find activities but I feel as if I am considered last.I feel sad and that I don’t matter. He ask me to marry him and I have spent my life loving him. I was used and I don’t believe he ever loved me. He leans over and says I want you to fall in love with me and kisses me. he’s kind, respectful, and sweet.to everyone, not just me. Your first step is to bravely consider these signs he’s not in love with you anymore. He said he won’t call when I am out he will wait until I get home and deal with me so now when I leave to go somewhere I am terrified that he will think I was gone too long or not where I said and that will be the day. Despite years of intermittent therapy ( I was constantly seeking out help, counseling, praying, etc) nothing changed. He refused,but i insisted. I’m only 21years old, I haven’t had any friends because he doesn’t “trust me”. Your Spidey senses are tingling, and the still small voice is telling you that you shouldn’t trust him. ………. Maybe im more scared of myself giving up before i even give it a real chance. The 6 Intimacy Skills gave me the tools to attract him back to me. This is not like ignoring you. All of a sudden he’s not replying to my texts blaming his phone and we used to talk and text everyday on the phone all this had stopped . I have been with my boyfriend/fiance for 3 years. He even bought a prepaid phone so I wouldn’t see any of their calls or texts to one another. Julie, I sincerely hope that your health improves for the better. Our relationship started off as casual but got exclusive, he’s even told me he loves me but at that time I never trusted him enough to say those words back. I am in the same situation. I had 5 relationships in a span of 7 years after my divorce before I met my current boyfriend … men who were not interested in marriage. But lately, we both get lost because of our own business and weaknesses. I don’t know what to do. He started screaming at me for no reason. I think you have wasted enough years of your life on him….time to move on and explore new horizons!!!! I don’t harbor hate. All of it makes me nauseous & anxious. Well, I looked like the fool!!! Like he hated that I was there. But more than the money overall I feel betrayed that, loaning money was my sole purpose for him like I was never loved or meant anything than what I provided. In September 2016 I found messages on his Facebook to several women. He was unkind and I kept racking my brains wondering whatI had done wrong. He says, he cant say or do anything right and it’s better not to talk to me. I think the spiritual and Christian element in all this is very important. Or a demon. And he only gives you the respect you deserve when he wants something or wants to change the subject. Do it for real. “I would give anything to go back…. My husband was a great provider, he wasn’t horrible as a friend, we seemed to “get along well living together as roommates) but he refused to hug me ( he would say he didn’t like hugging and I was being a jerk for demanding he hugged me), he was annoyed with my faith in God, ( said it pissed him off when I talked about God), annoyed or jealous of my time with street ministry or friends, and was always telling me I was nuts. How you feel when you’re with him is a huge sign he does or doesn’t love you. All the while he cheated on me but I foolishly believed him when he told me he wasnt seeing other women. I meet him nothing happened we just sat and talked. I can’t take anymore. He just makes me feel like I am crazy and I am feeling these things for no reason and its not fair. The sooner you recognize and accept that he doesn’t love you, the sooner you can start coping with whatever your future brings. I was taught to help others just as God helps us. He means so much to me. I get so frustrated and it really hurts. Sorry you sound so lovely, far too good for this loser!!!!. Instead, be afraid of not being able to see the truth about your relationship! His texts he wanted a life with me, he loved me, he thought about me all day, he missed me. We a married for 5 years we v 2 sons but I feel this man doesn’t love me at all.at first we would spend weeks without sex him denyg me…I got ajob and whenever he sees me with money he shows some love he doesn’t give me anytig he made my parents hate me thy no longer talk to me now he forces me sex everyday weza am interested or not tired or not for him he wants one day I told him I had stomachache he tried forcing me but I was dry …the man abused me and left we spent aweeek without talkg…what can I do ..I feel he doesn’t love me at all. He made sure I had no access to it and claimed it’s a privacy matter. I just had a gf lay into me the other day about self respect that I should think enough of myself blah blah.. that’s super sweet… what about supporting your friends… I guess that’s not an option… I think like I am going to start doing being into myself… that’s where I need to be not with these losers…. If divorce is the decision. if you purely love someone, his or her happiness is the most matter. Anyway, that upset him. We have never sat down and had one conversation about a “wedding” which is something I have always wanted and value very much. I just posted after you so you can read my crappy bs.. i already knew that my ex really did,nt love me . O_o; I’ve been in a relationship with what I don’t even know to call my boyfriend. I want him to be my future husband . He rings me once a week as if nothing is different . Whatever you are looking for won’t be found in your boyfriend, or a blog post listing signs he doesn’t love you, or even your own strength. But today, I noticed the worst part of any of it. He’s said he finds me annoying but like I think he’s the cutest thing and even when he’s “annoying” he’s not annoying. He still has his home that he owned with his ex wife and their daughter lives in it rent free with her family. He’s just using you and doesn’t even want to make some effort for you or the relationship. The problem is he doesn’t love me. But I guess you forgot that know when I walked me and you were no together. By trusting God to heal your spirit and heart. Do you encourage each other to take healthy risks and become more of who you are? You know? He tried to lie his way out of it and even broke his phone on the pavement as if that would make it go away. Married for 28 years as of 6/17/17.We’ve been separated but still communicating for 3 years this May. I realized that I am worth more than an On and off switch with a man who obviously don’t value me as the queen I am. Am not proud of it as we still have 2 dependant kids. stole from me). oh my goodness why dont you leave him??????????????? For example, I would say things like “ambition really turns me on in a woman” when she was feeling bad about her appearance. They say life goes on and it does. Or was he just acting to get to know what it’s like to be in a relationship? But the worst part he is a coward he would never confront it.. I always contacted him and chose to be understanding and supportive instead of always bringing up this lack of communication. I feel like she was simply in a spot in her life where it wasn’t time for a relationship, and the actions weren’t necessarily about me. It’s easy to say, “I love you,” but true love is demonstrated in action. He refuses to help. He even wrote a letter to her and made me read it about his love for her. It is a vicious cycle. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. 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